I know we all like to externalize factors that make our man less interested in us. Its how we look, how we dress, how we treat him etc. Maybe we didn’t make him enough sandwiches or he didn’t like our friends. This is only the case when men don’t truly love us. Men are attracted to strong, confident, independent women who love themselves. So if you’re wondering why you feel him slipping away, maybe it’s because you’ve been spending too much time on him, and not enough developing kick ass self-confidence. Need a pick-me-up? Here are a few things you can do that’ll boost your self-love and have your man in awe of your magnetic personality and alluring charm – direct consequences of feeling awesome about yourself.
1. Get a new outfit.
This will show him you still care about what you look like, and that you still want to impress him. Yes, it’s great that we can strut around in sweatpants in front of our men, but he still needs to feel like you want to dress up and look pretty for him. Even if you simply spruce up an old outfit with some fun new accessories or buy one new item, you’ll feel great and it will show through. When you feel more attractive, you are more attractive.
2. Whiten your teeth.
The wine and coffee is taking its toll, and we both know you’re not giving those up. The same rule as above applies here, except you won’t be able to help showing off a pearly white smile, and happy smiling people are who we like to surround yourself with. If you’re a mopey mess all the time because you feel insecure, no man is going to want to stay with you. A radiant smile will keep him coming back for more kisses.
3. Go for a run.
Working out and staying active affects us positively in a physical, mental and emotional way. There is literally no downside to getting your fitness on. You’ll be perkier, happier, and have more energy and seeing you get all sweaty will have him jumping all over you. Not to mention the fact that your new and improved bod will have his eyes hooked on you.
4. Start a new hobby.
Don’t depend on him to fill all your evenings, that’s relationship suicide. Want to pique his interest? Draw him in? Tell him you’re busy tonight doing this awesome new activity you got into and won’t be able to see him until after. He’ll be begging to have you around.
5. Flirt with another guy.
This should be done ONLY on a girls night, because purposefully making your man jealous will do nothing but hurt your relationship. This advice is playful and to be used as a confidence booster, not a drama-provoker. Go to a bar, flirt with some guys, get them to buy you drinks, dance, have fun, and feel beautiful. It helps to know that you’ve still got it. At the end of the night, politely decline when your flirting toy asks for your number. He might be a little peeved, but serves him right for thinking he could score such a hot girl in just one night!
These are some simple, general guidelines to keep your man by working on yourself. I implore you to instigate these one or all of them to ensure your own happiness as well as your happiness as a couple.
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by Alica Aubrey
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